couple therapy, portland oregon & NEW YORK
When love becomes a struggle or a chore, seeking help to get things back on track makes sense.
who needs couples therapy?
Couples therapy is beneficial for relationships of any age, culture or orientation; be it a happy couple that want to seek greater intimacy and satisfaction, or a distressed couple dealing with issues such as infidelity, addiction, financial strain, or frequent conflict.
Committed relationships require regular care and maintenance to prevent the build up of unhealthy patterns and unresolved issues. Couples therapy provides a safe and supportive space for both of you to explore your emotions, resolve your differences, and deepen your love and connection.
love is not just a feeling. it’s a choice we make every single day.
i can help you work through issues such as:
Emotional distance and communication breakdown
Infidelity, jealousy and loss of trust
Disputes around parenting, in-laws, money, etc.
Financial distress or redundancy
Sex and intimacy issues
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
I first start practising Couples Therapy using the Gottman Method, but it felt like couples weren’t quite getting to the root of their problems. That’s when I decided to study Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, a highly researched and effective therapy that can bring to light painful and suppressed emotions, change negative communication patterns, and transform past injuries into positive insights and a more intimate bond.
TAKE THE first step
Starting any therapy can be daunting, especially when it involves a partner. Maybe you’re worried it will open up a can of worms and make the relationship worse, that the therapist will side with your partner, or that opening up about intimate details will leave you feeling vulnerable.
I encourage you to simply keep an open mind. I’ll support you both through those difficult emotions and uncomfortable conversations with empathy, objectivity, and lightness. You don’t need to commit to a lengthy course of sessions. Try one together, and then decide.